Madam Tolu, a relationship expert on TikTok shared a personal experience where her husband calling her a “bad person” forced her to confront her own flaws and biases.
She reflected on how marriage can reveal aspects of ourselves that one may not have been aware of or acknowledged before.
The lady admitted to previously believing that any man who married her would enjoy her because she had no issues. However, her husband’s comments made her recognize that this perspective was unrealistic.
Quoting her verbatim, “I used to think I was a good person. I used to say anybody that gets married to me will not have problem. I did not know that I was a bad person. Last week my husband said to me ‘I never knew you were this wicked.’ In my mind I said you never even see anything. The truth is that marriage will reveal some sides of you that you never knew existed. Why? Because in the package of marriage, there is something we call freedom. Marriage is the only relationship where you can truly be an expression of your authentic self.”
See her video below,
@madam.tolu Marriage is a mirror hahaha, I love love love mine 🤣🤣 #singleladies #marriage #marriageadvice ♬ original sound – Madam Tolu